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To give a good massage communication is essential. The only limits are what you and your lovers agree to, but be sure you have the same expectations. While dripping hot wax on you lover might be something you find exciting, make sure your partner is ok with this before you reach for the burning candle. Both the giver and the receiver need to be comfortable and trust each other. Talking to each other can be very erotic and builds a sense of anticipation, but be willing to step outside of your usual lovemaking and explore new areas. Share your hidden desires and creativity. Dissolve Your Inhibitions and play with your passion. Let your partner know that you want feedback during the massage. If you or your partner is uncomfortable with something, set it aside for another time. Then let-go and unleash your imagination!

The secret to sensual bliss

Preparation is vital to a good erotic massage. Be sure the area is clean and you have everything you need nearby. Your massage oils should be close and if you are planning to add any other items to your erotic massage whether its feathers, furs or chocolate sauce, keep them in arms reach so you will keep the level of excitement building without interruption. Make sure you are clean 99% of people do not find body odor exciting. Know how to create a sizzling and indulgent atmosphere in the room to get your lover in the mood. The right atmosphere will engage the mind, your greatest sex organ. After turning on the mind, turn on the body to create complete mind and body experience.

Learn the basic massage strokes you will need to pamper your beloved from head to toe. The Erotic massage online course is a great resource for discovering how to perform the strokes and will teach you how to use your hands to give your lover an incredible night of pleasure. Part of the excitement of an erotic massage is discovering new sensations and experiencing unexpected pleasures. While your partner may not be sure of everything you are going to do, you should have a good Idea of what will be coming next. This doesn’t mean you can’t be spontaneous and go with the flow, but “winging it” can be awkward and create tension if you seem lost or unsure of what you are doing. The erotic massage online course will give you a wealth of knowledge and tips to keep your erotic massage an uninterrupted moment of bliss.

The last step in preparing to give an erotic massage is to breath. Breathing will wake up and spread the erotic feelings throughout the body. Breathing with your lover will increase your energy and mental clarity, reduce stress, and maximize your pleasure and arousal.

Create unlimited pleasure

There is no reason to let your bedroom (or any place else) become boring. Open your mind and try out something new. Whether its feathers, fluffy pink handcuffs, or a good old fashioned bubble bath. There are no limits on the erotic and sensual pleasures you and your lover can achieve. Being open and accepting to new ideas from your lover and being willing to share your desires and fantasies can add spice to any relationship. This is where the communication pays off. Of course for some getting started can be difficult that’s why I recommend The complete secrets of lovemaking going thorough the courses with your lover will stimulate ideas and teach you how to create incredible sexual pleasure. 

The best part of learning erotic massage

Books, videos and online streaming videos are great for teaching you the basics, but you will learn erotic massage by practicing erotic massage. Trying out the strokes, with your lover and by paying attention to what it feels like to completely surrender to another’s touch or to completely devote yourself to the pleasure of another. You will learn erotic touch by doing it, again and again. Erotic massage is like driving, exercise, or playing an instrument. Erotic massage becomes a part of you. The more you practice, the more natural and easy it will be.

Imagine yourself laying still in the soft glow of the candle light as it dances in the room.  Breathing deep you can smell the subtle aroma of lavender. As you let the days troubles fade away you feel the touch of your partner’s hands as they glide over your skin. Each stroke drains away tension and eases your mind. You have escaped from the cares of the world and it is just you and your partner sharing this quiet moment. Taking time to give and receiving without expectation just being together.

It is moments like this that build the intimacy that will sustain a long and loving relationship.

Of course these moments don’t just happen they need to be created.  It doesn’t take a lot to do this and you don’t need to be a professional massage therapist to give a great massage. One of the great things about sensual massage is that it takes only a little know how, some oil and a desire to give a gift of love to your partner, and finally, setting aside a little time. A complete massage can be given in about an hour and you can give a great foot massage in 10 minutes. Building your relationship with a sensual massage will create an environment where the two of you can blossom. I have seen even the most distraught couples begin to repair and build long and loving relationship as a benefit of sensual massage. Couples who are already close find that a sensual massage can enhance their relationship and help it grow to new heights.

A sensual massage is a great way for both partners to take a time out and unwind from the daily cares. As you release muscular tension and untie the knots, you show your partner that you can provide comfort; acceptance and pleasure without having them feel the need to reciprocate or the pressures of sex helping the two of you to build a trusting and fulfilling relationship together.

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A sensual massage is not just a massage. it is a shared experience, where both the giver and the receiver each have their own part to play in this complete immersion of the senses. Preparing for the sensual massage is simple, but important. Making sure that all of the senses are stimulated will enable you and your partner to enjoy a synergistic and fullfiling encounter.

As the reciever you simply need to open yourself to the experiance and be ready to enjoy the masage. Avoid eating a large meal, a heavy bloated feeling is not going to help you relax and laying on your stomach could be uncomfortable. Keep your alcohol use to a minimum. Alchohol will dull your senses. A warm bath or shower is great to wash away daily grime that can be abrassive when mixed with massage oil and will begin the relaxation of your musles.

Before giving a sensual massage be sure you are ready. Ensure that your hands are clean and warm. (Holding your hands under warm running water helps.) Your fingernails should be trimmed, and  remove any jewelry since it can be uncomfortable for you partner. Finally, make sure you are not tired, fatigued or under heavy stress because this will be perceived by your partner.

Having open and honest communication is one of the key elements of a great realtionship and the sensual massage is a simple way to learn to open up to each other. To begine this open communication, one of the most important things to do is remove your expectations. You and your partner need to know that the sensual massage is an experiance itself, to be given and accepted with no strings attached. Take the phone off the hook , hang up the do not disturb sign. Do whatever it takes to ensure you privacy for this time together. While your partener will have their eyes closed throuout most of the massage a warm and soothing visual enviornment will set the stage for them. It will also help you the giver to remain relaxed and allow you to enjoy your own sensual experiance. Candlelight dancing on the supple oiled body of your partner can be hypnotic and plesurable all by itself.

To give a good sensual massage, you need a firm surface  a bed is usually too soft and will not allow you to apply the pressure needed or the space to move around. A massage table  is ideal of course, but the floor works quite well as long as you place some padding under your partner and a pillow to support their head. You need to have room to move freely, dim lights or candles will create soothing visual  environment and use warm colors such as yellows oranges and reds.

Speaking of warm make sure that the room is warm, draft free and comfortable the temperature should be near 75 degrees. (23 C) It is best if your partner is nude however you should have towels or sheets on hand in case they are cool or uncomfortable being compleatley nude .

Our minds and bodies react to the sound we hear. Having your massage accompanied by gentle soothing music or the sounds of nature can enhance the mood and mask surrounding noises. Avoid music with lyrics they are often distracting and can detract from the intimacy of the sensual massage. Of Course sometimes silence is golden.

Using essential oils is a natural accompiniment to the sensual massage. Thes organic oil will deepen the relaxation and enhane the immersion of ou partners experiance. Essental oils come in a large varity of scents  and blends and can be taylored to you prefreces and moods.

Make sure that your tools are nearby you will want to maintain contact with your partner during the massage. Put your oil in a small bowl or bottle. if you use a bottle do not put the lid on since you would need to take your hands off you partner to apply the oil. When you set your hands on your partner and begin your massage move with a constant speed so the rhythm of your movement will help to build the soothing effect of the massage.

Oil lubricates the skin and helps your hands to mold to the curves and shape of you partner giving your strokes a more sensual feel. To apply oil use only enough to allow you hands to glide over the body too much oil will feel sticky and reduce your contact with your partner’s skin. The oil should not be poured directly on your partner since it will be too cold. To warm the oil, you can place the container in a dish of warm water or add some to the palm of you hand and rub your hands together. This also works during the massage but I have found that pouring it through the back of your fingers allows you to maintain contact and continue massaging your partner. Smooth the oil evenly over the part of the body you will be working on, using a light gliding stroke, but don’t try to rub it in.  

Your skin is your largest organ and what goes on the skin will be absorbed into the body.  So you should put some thought into what you will be using.

Do not use baby oil mineral oil peanut oil or olive oil since these are too thick. the “love” oils and lotions found in adult shops are often stick and thick they contain sugars an other flavoring and other chemicals. So I would not recommend them for a full body sensual massage. So use other pure light vegetable oils or professional grade massage oils.

To find suitable oils for your massage you need only to as far as you pantry. You will find something to use safflower oil and sesame oil work well and coconut oil almond and avocado oils are rich and luxuriant but may need to be mixed with a lighter oil

The only disadvantage to using these oils is that they are food grade and are meant for cooking so they contain the tastes and smells of the vegetables they were processed from, which is great if you are cooking you favorite chicken dish or sautéing shrimp but may not be the most that are relaxing or the odors you want lingering on your body.

Using professional grade massage and essential oils work best although the y cost a little more they provide a luxurious and silky feeling when used with out the smell of you kitchen oils they are usually organic vegetable oils that have been refined to remove the extra impurities and odors. Professional massage oils also make excellent carrier oils for using essential oils so you can supplement you massage with aromatherapy and tailor the massage to the scents you and your partner prefer as well as adding the therapeutic benefits of essential oils.

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While you do not have to be a professional massage therapist to give a sensual massage to your partner, knowing the stokes that they use and how to apply them will make your massage even better. While there are many different types of massage strokes used by massage therapist, to do a great sensual massage you only need to know four. They are Gliding, Kneading, Friction, and Percussion. Each stroke has its own purpose and is chosen for a specific reason. The giver uses a particular type of stroke depending on what their partner wants or needs from the massage, some strokes can have a calming, and sedative effect or be refreshing and stimulating depending on the speed and pressure with which it is applied.

When beginning your massage, lay your hand on your partner don’t drop it. your strokes should blend smoothly flowing into each other creating one continuous flow of sensual pleasure running over the body.  It is important to remember when giving a sensual massage to maintain contact with your partner at all times, so keeping your oil near is essential. The strokes are ideally done with firmness towards the heart, and with lightness when moving away from it to provide the full benefits of the massage. The massage giver should keep their hands and wrists relaxed. If your hands are tense, your partner will be able to feel it this can interfere with their relaxation. Finally, the force of the massage should come from your body and not be limited to the your arms and shoulders,

While a sensual massage is primarily focused on the emotional bonding between two people, there are some physical benefits as well. A Sensual massage is generally a full body massage, since it usually works on all the major muscle groups in the body. Sensual massage can increase your flexibility because it stretches the ligaments and tendons, and relaxes the muscles. It also helps flush the body tissues of metabolic waste such as uric, and lactic acid. Massage causes oxygen rich blood to flow through the body. Since in the veins and lymph system do not have a pump like the heart, they rely on muscle movement to move fluids. A massage is an excellent way to help these systems work more efficiently.  

A Sensual massage is best while lying naked on a massage table, but the floor works fine if some padding is placed to keep your partner comfortable. Towels and pillows are needed for warmth and support. This helps to keep weight off the head and neck. Massage oil is used to ensure the smoothness of the strokes. To help you maintain contact with your partner, make sure that all of your equipment is within easy reach while giving the massage.

Before and during the sensual massage listen to your partner and do what they ask. This is a time for them to relax and enjoy the sensations around them. Make sure that they are not doing something else that will distract them from the experience. limiting your conversation to guidance will help them to relax and never comment on how tense or tight they are this is distraction and will only keep them tense just use the strokes you learn to help them relax and give them pleasure.

The first stroke to learn is the gliding stroke. It is the foundation of a sensual massage and is one of the most relaxing and sensual strokes. A long smooth flowing open handed stroke it slides over the skin and feels soft and fluid and is almost guaranteed to bring a sigh of pleasure from you partner. The gliding stroke is used to apply oil and connect with your partner’s body. The sensual massage is started and ended with these strokes. Gliding massage strokes can be light or deep and are able to be performed on any part of the body. You can use your palm, fingers, or forearms to perform gliding strokes.

 To do a good gliding stroke you need to make sure your hands are relaxed. If your fingers close together your hands are tense. Let your fingers spread apart since any tension in the hands will be easily felt by your partner. Pressure should come from the whole hand and be distributed evenly through your hand from thumb to little finger. keep your  hands soft letting them melt and mold to the shape of the body

To really get the most out of this stroke, you need to slow down. Generally, people tend to do this stroke too fast. Start slow and then go slower than you think. By the time you finish with this stroke your partner will feel relaxed and supple.

While you’re doing this stroke, notice any knots or tense areas in the muscles. This is the time where you listen with your hands. Tuning in to your partners body, will help you decide how to give your partner a more enjoyable experience as you continue with the rest of the massage.

The gliding stroke is great for warming and calming your partner, but it is also very sensual for the massage giver. You can enjoy the feel and shape of your partner’s body, as your hands glide over them. Allow yourself to really immerse yourself in the sensation and connection you are creating.

A variation of the gliding stroke known as Feathering or Raking and is an excellent way to end a massage. To do this, curl your fingers and using only your fingertips, go from top to bottom. Use very light pressure, but be careful not to tickle during feathering. This stroke is very sensual and will send thrilling shivers through the body, as it stimulates the nerve endings close to the surface.

Some of the deeper variations of the gliding stroke are pulling and wringing.

Pulling is a stroke done on the muscles of the arms and legs. it is done with both hands.  To do this simply wrap one hand around the limb and gently pull as you move your hand down to the end.  As your hand reach the wrist or ankle, start at the top of the limb with your other hand and then continue to alternating tem with each other, when done the muscles are pulled and stretched to loosen them.

Wringing is done on the torso, the arms and the legs. The hands are placed on either side of the area being massaged and are moved in an alternating forward and backward motion, moving in an upward direction this stroke is usually done quickly, so oil is essential to prevent burning. Wringing can be a very invigorating stroke for your partner.

If you ask someone to massage your shoulders for you they will usually use this stroke. Kneading works best on the large meaty muscles of the body. Its purpose is relaxing muscle tension and getting the blood circulating deep in the muscle. it is meant to gently lift muscles up and away from the bone. Then the muscles are gently rolled and squeezed.  It is always done firmly, take a hold of the muscle being massaged and then press it between the fingers and the heel of the hands, like kneading dough. The kneading stoke can be done with two hands, one hand, or between the fingers in a rolling type motion since this is a deep muscle stroke make sure the muscles are warm and relaxed before doing this stroke. Experience and communication will help to keep pressure firm but not painful.

To do the kneading stroke lay your hands on the muscle you want to massage,. Keep your fingers close together and your thumbs extended. The space between your two hands should make a triangle. With one hand, bring the thumb towards the fingers; you are closing your hand by pressing the muscle between your thumb and fingers. Your fingers should remain still and act as an anchor for you thumb. Keep a constant rhythm and hold your fingers together. Moving in tight circles, use both hands on one spot. Now let your thumb and forefingers slide off the muscle and as the first hand releases perform the same grasping action with your other hand. Alternate doing this motion with both hands. The thumb is the secret. Feel the muscle roll of off you fingertips. When done correctly, the feeling rolls across the body.

Make sure you stay relaxed when kneading and don’t overuse it. The kneading action is a great way to loosen tired muscles, but the repetitive motion can be very tiring if you do it too much. Your fingers will get worn out the quickest, and you need to use them as little as possible. Make sure you always pay attention to how you feel when you give a massage.

Plucking – Plucking is done by lifting small areas of the muscle using the fingertips. The lifted muscle is then gently squeezed before it is allowed to slide back.  You should work along the grain of the muscle since working cross grain can be painful.

Our instinct tells us that rubbing feels good and people will often rub sore or injured parts of their bodies to feel better.  Friction strokes are great for sore spots and loosening small knots in the muscles. It is a deep stroke and done with pressure, using the thumbs and fingertips moving in tiny circles along the area being massaged. Since it is a penetrating stroke it should only be used after the muscles are warmed and relaxed to be effective. You may also need to use an anchor hand to steady the body or part being worked on. Some people love this stroke, but others find it too painful. Communication is key when you perform this stroke to determine the amount of pressure you can use or if you should avoid this stroke completely. 

There are three different varieties of the friction stroke – circular stripping, and cross-fiber.

 Circular friction – This is the most common friction stroke and can really get things moving. Using your fingertips, thumbs, knuckles or even your elbow, Place your hand on the spot that you will be working on and slowly make small circles. Start with a medium pressure and then increase it. Move from the outside and work in to the sore spot or knot. Make these small circles in the whole area you are working.

Stripping – This stroke follows the muscle fibers.  Think of the area you will work and imagine the direction that the muscle fibers are running. Use medium pressure with the heel of the hand on larger areas, or with the thumbs on smaller areas. Slowly move it from end to end of that muscle in a line. Work on the same spot a few times then move on to the next one. Continue doing this until you’ve covered the entire muscle. this stoke is done with the purpose of stretching the muscle and increasing blood circulation. 

Cross-fiber stroke - This stroke is used when you are working deep muscles and tendons. To do the cross-fiber stoke you will be using your thumb or fingers to work across the muscle fibers in short and deep strokes.

Percussion is a quick stroke that is light, fast-paced and stimulating, where the body is struck in a quick, repetitive way. It invigorates the muscles and increases superficial blood flow. This is the massage technique you often see on movies and television shows. It is important not to do percussion on areas where the bone is close to the skin. Never do it over the spine or kidneys. Don’t do it to someone who is pregnant. It is not appropriate to do it for too long. This will over-stimulate the area and annoy the person you’re massaging. The strokes should be like raindrops on a still pond not a crashing wave. You don’t want your partner to feel like you’re trying to beat them up.

There are variations to this stroke, though the variations are just how you hold hand is when you strike:  hacking with the side of the hand, pounding with an open or closed fist, or cupping. Percussion is a good stroke to use on tense, spamming or cramping muscles

Hacking Using the sides of the hands, with the palms facing each other, beat up and down the area being massaged, like a karate chop. Strike the area you’re massaging lightly with the outer edge of your hands alternating your hands quickly. The motion must be fast. Keep your wrists loose and relaxed so that the hands lightly bounce on the muscle.
Pounding Make loose fists and use the same edge of your hand that you used in hacking the fist give added pressure to the stroke.

Cupping The hands and fingers are curled into a cup shape, and with the palms facing downward, you then strike the area you are working. You should hear a popping sound like a horse trotting. If it sounds like a slap it feels like one too, so cup you hands a little more. Cupping is especially good to do over the lungs of someone who is congested. Have them lay face down and cup their back over their lungs. It will help them expectorate the mucus. Percussion strokes take some practice to do correctly and you will probably not use them often with a sensual massage. They are best used at the end of a sensual massage when you partner wants to be alert and invigorated.