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Preparing for the sensual massage

  • February 22, 2010 5:04 pm

A sensual massage is not just a massage. it is a shared experience, where both the giver and the receiver each have their own part to play in this complete immersion of the senses. Preparing for the sensual massage is simple, but important. Making sure that all of the senses are stimulated will enable you and your partner to enjoy a synergistic and fullfiling encounter.

 

As the reciever you simply need to open yourself to the experiance and be ready to enjoy the masage. Avoid eating a large meal, a heavy bloated feeling is not going to help you relax and laying on your stomach could be uncomfortable. Keep your alcohol use to a minimum. Alchohol will dull your senses. A warm bath or shower is great to wash away daily grime that can be abrassive when mixed with massage oil and will begin the relaxation of your musles.

 

Before giving a sensual massage be sure you are ready. Ensure that your hands are clean and warm. (Holding your hands under warm running water helps.) Your fingernails should be trimmed, and  remove any jewelry since it can be uncomfortable for you partner. Finally, make sure you are not tired, fatigued or under heavy stress because this will be perceived by your partner.

Having open and honest communication is one of the key elements of a great realtionship and the sensual massage is a simple way to learn to open up to each other. To begine this open communication, one of the most important things to do is remove your expectations. You and your partner need to know that the sensual massage is an experiance itself, to be given and accepted with no strings attached. Take the phone off the hook , hang up the do not disturb sign. Do whatever it takes to ensure you privacy for this time together. While your partener will have their eyes closed throuout most of the massage a warm and soothing visual enviornment will set the stage for them. It will also help you the giver to remain relaxed and allow you to enjoy your own sensual experiance. Candlelight dancing on the supple oiled body of your partner can be hypnotic and plesurable all by itself.

 

To give a good sensual massage, you need a firm surface  a bed is usually too soft and will not allow you to apply the pressure needed or the space to move around. A massage table  is ideal of course, but the floor works quite well as long as you place some padding under your partner and a pillow to support their head. You need to have room to move freely, dim lights or candles will create soothing visual  environment and use warm colors such as yellows oranges and reds.

Speaking of warm make sure that the room is warm, draft free and comfortable the temperature should be near 75 degrees. (23 C) It is best if your partner is nude however you should have towels or sheets on hand in case they are cool or uncomfortable being compleatley nude .

 

Our minds and bodies react to the sound we hear. Having your massage accompanied by gentle soothing music or the sounds of nature can enhance the mood and mask surrounding noises. Avoid music with lyrics they are often distracting and can detract from the intimacy of the sensual massage. Of Course sometimes silence is golden.

 

Using essential oils is a natural accompiniment to the sensual massage. Thes organic oil will deepen the relaxation and enhane the immersion of ou partners experiance. Essental oils come in a large varity of scents  and blends and can be taylored to you prefreces and moods.

 

Make sure that your tools are nearby you will want to maintain contact with your partner during the massage. Put your oil in a small bowl or bottle. if you use a bottle do not put the lid on since you would need to take your hands off you partner to apply the oil. When you set your hands on your partner and begin your massage move with a constant speed so the rhythm of your movement will help to build the soothing effect of the massage.

Giving a Sensual Massage

  • February 2, 2010 5:33 pm

Before you give a Sensual massage you need to take some time to prepare. 

 

You do not need to be a professional massage therapist to give a great massage. However, learning a few basic strokes and how to prepare the area will make it much easier. You will also be more confident and relaxed. Before beginning the massage, have a plan or a massage map. This will help to keep you focused on the massage

 

Your attitude is very important. Remember that a sensual massage is a gift of love and should come from a desire to give joy and pleasure to your partner. Generally if you are tired, angry, or experiencing a lot of stress you should postpone giving the massage.

As you prepare to give a sensual massage take your mind off of your daily cares.  A few deep and calming breathes with your partner will help you to start to relax and allow the two of you to get in harmony.

 

As you give the massage, one of the most important things you can do is listen to your partner. At first encourage them to verbally tell you what they like. As the two of you become more familiar with each other’s preferences you will probably, only talk to point our specific areas that they might want addressed and then a deep sigh or groan of pleasure will speak volumes.

 

The sensual massage is a gift given from love and caring. You should let go of any expectations. One of the joys of the sensual massage is in allowing your partner to experience the massage with out needing to feel they have to give back. Now is not the time to attempt to arouse your partner. Save this for later when giving an erotic massage as part of your foreplay. During the sensual massage, the focus is on the emotional joining rather than the physical. While at first the idea of touching your partner’s body so intimately without the expectation of sex may seem strange, but you will both soon discover the profound difference that each type of massage brings and the emotional benefits that you will enjoy.

 

Of course giving a sensual massage can be a pleasurable experience it self.  Allow yourself to enjoy your own pleasure as you touch your partners body. Immerse yourself in the feel of their skin as your hands move over them. The glow of the candlelight as it glistens on their skin and the happiness you feel giving to them can be a very sensual experience for you as well.

 

Make sure you have all of your tools ready and that the area is properly prepared. Then enjoy the time together, and abandon yourself to this wonderful experience together with your partner.

Receiving a Sensual Massage

  • February 2, 2010 5:32 pm

Giving a sensual massage is a gift, but receiving one is also a gift – The gift of abandoning yourself entirely into someone else’s hands. As you open yourself to your partner, you are giving them your trust, honesty, and the joy of connecting with you on such an intimate level.

 

In today’s society, it is difficult to just accept something without feeling the need to reciprocate, but by just accepting the sensations created by your partner, you will be able to truly enjoy the massage and the bond created between you. Let your partner know what you need before the massage begins. Tell them of any sore spots or tension that you have. At first during the massage you need only lie quietly and guide them. Let them know how much pressure you like or the speed that you find most comfortable, soon they will learn what you like. Then you simply need to abandon yourself completely to the massage and the sensations of this wonderful experience together.

 

When you prepare to receive a massage, the first thing to do is to clear your mind from your daily cares. Taking a warm bath or shower will help your muscles begin to relax. It will also give you time to let go of your mental and physical barriers. Finally being clean and fresh makes the massage more enjoyable for you and your partner. A few deep and calming breathes with your partner will help you to start to relax and allow the two of you to get in harmony. Tell yourselves that this time is to be put aside for relaxation and the pure pleasure that awaits you. Open up your whole being to your own sensuality.

 

 

During a sensual massage, quiet your mind. Relax completely and become aware of your own receptiveness. Relax your body and absorb your surroundings. Allow all of your senses to be completely enrobed in the experience. Enjoy the sights, sounds, smells and feelings that have been created just for you.  Be happy you can offer your partner the opportunity to give freely and express their feelings directly through touch. All you need to do is accept the love being offered and melt in the ocean of ecstasy.